They are the same for both men and women, and are as follows:

1) Confidence  Belief in one's own overall competence, combined with a strong feeling of self-worth as an attractive potential partner for MOTOS.

2) Sexual Polarity  Masculinity and femininity are the catalysts of sexual attraction. Their respective elements are best defined by the gender attracted to them, as opposed to the gender exhibiting them. Masculine men and feminine women find each other mutually attractive.

3) Inspiring Safety/Security  A woman wants a man who can make her feel safe and comfortable in his presence. This is best accomplished by having her best interests at heart as opposed to representing a threat to her physically, emotionally or otherwise. Mature, effective and benevolent decion making are key, as is a genuine affinity for women. Similarly, men feel safe with a woman when she proves trustworthy, loyal, reliable and supportive.

4) Strong Character  Having a consistent, cornerstone belief system in place allows one to understand what is right and do so even when nobody is watching. Character empowers one to make effective decisions, maintain a consistent presence and fulfill on his or her promises.

 

Similarly, once able to boldly seize opportunities to meet and attract MOTOS, sexual polarity ensures success at the attraction phase.

Notably, only the first two elements are necessary in order for pure attraction to occur.

The third element of safety/security is what allows MOTOS to relax and enjoy being attracted. Without safety/security, women tend to "flake out" on dates, etc. Meanwhile, succeeding at establishing safety/security without sexual polarity (element 2) leads to the dreaded "Just Be Friends Zone".

Finally, strong character ensures the long-term viability of the relationship by instilling a protracted sense of safety/security over the course of time.

Importantly, a "big three" person is particularly dangerous to get into a relationship with because he or she will succeed at manipulating a partner into attraction and acceptance, only to likely bring his or her life to ruins later due to their lack of character.

Over the course of several years since the concept of the "big four" was introduced, Scot has successfully defended the validity and completeness of the model even when presenting before potentially skeptical or even hostile audiences.